Victimization

You know what is really annoying?

Self-Victimization.

I have a girl on my Facebook. I know her personally, not a friend, but an acquaintance. She was a bartender at a place I used to go for Happy Hour often. So, I know her a little, she's an OK gal, pretty and very popular.

However, she got pregnant by her "boyfriend". He cheated on her and now, every 2-3 days, she posts something like her following post: "If you lay down & make a baby, stand up & be a daddy." Now. I don't disagree with that statement and 44 people liked it. However, following the story line. The dude is paying his child support. She also chose to "lay with him". She is learning the hard life lesson that life is choices and every choice you make has a consequence.

So, my problem is, it happens so often, it feels like a cry for attention. I get it, she is angry at him for cheating. Well, it's not her fault he cheated. What's annoying is, she didn't screen for more honest dudes. Sure, maybe some of you will say I'm just jealous of him and her. Wrong. I have a hotter, younger, cooler girlfriend. I've dated many aged 18-44 and screened out poor quality matches up front. It's not that hard. You just have to love yourself and not be desperate to need a woman or man until you find one that you have chemistry with and also shares your core values. Be willing to sacrifice something not too significant to get the things you really want in a partner. It also helps if you are a person who has decent core values, but I'm not one to judge.

There are tons of people who self victimize. I'm not picking on just women or this relationship. There are people who are in a wheelchair competing in Olympics and people in wheelchairs sitting on the corner begging for change.There are children who have garbage parents, and their are children who don't even HAVE parents. There is ALWAYS someone who has is worse and someone who has it better than you. Life is tough some times and it does not always go the way you wanted it to. The longer the period of you "feeling sorry for yourself" is time that could be more well spent DOing something about it. Regrouping, Changing Course, etc.

I'm making the point that, every person has choices in life. They can choose to be responsible or choose to be irresponsible. Sometimes you have to take risks in life, no doubt, and sometimes those risks pay off and some times they don't but every choice you make has a consequence and adults and positive people will ACCEPT the responsibility for their actions and look to move forward.

Children will "lie", cheat, steal, or basically do anything to get out of or justify actions afterwards. Why? Because they don't want to "get in trouble" or they still don't think before they act and speak on what the consequences might be... until it is too late.

Be responsible people, as often as possible. Boring? Sure, but you'll thank yourself later when you and your family have a good life and you'll be wondering what the hell is wrong with all those other people making poor choices and then "feeling sorry" for themselves afterwards and not doing anything about it.